Self-awareness Archives ~ Mary Blacklock

Clarity

How do you gain clarity? | Seeking clarity

What to do when you don’t know what to do.

Not knowing what to do can be extremely frustrating. Likewise, it can be frustrating if you know what you want to do, but you don’t know how to get there If gaining clarity is the best way to move forward and accomplish big things, how do you gain clarity? How do you gain clarity when your destination is unknown?

Let go of the lack of clarity

In my journey to understand and gain clarity, I have started to re-frame how I think about the uncertain steps and destinations. I used to get frustrated when I felt a lack of clarity, because I wanted more clarity than I currently had. I focused on the lack of clarity.

I’m not saying that I never get frustrated or that I always know what to do and where to go next. Clarity is a process. I am still growing clarity in my own life. However, it’s not as frustrating as it once was.

A yearly process of reflection and goal setting has enabled me to re-frame and let go of the lack of clarity. Each year that I’ve gone through the reflection and goal setting process, I set better goals. I set better goals, because each year I gain more clarity by going through the process.

This has led me to re-frame thoughts about clarity that were previously focused on lacking to thoughts that focus on growth.

“It’s not a lack of clarity. It’s a growing clarity.” – Mary Blacklock

Clarity will grow when you do the work to grow it.

3 ways to gain clarity

Growing in clarity has been a huge relief for me and I want to share what I’m learning. In upcoming posts on clarity I will write in light of the following 3 topics.

Grow your clarity in these 3 ways:

1. Reflection

Articles will share information about intentional reflection processes that will help grow clarity. They will look at ways to reflect and evaluate so that clarity comes with each reflection.

2. Action

It’s that “Do the work.” thing again. Doing the work for growing your clarity means taking actions that aid in your reflection, such as brainstorming. Articles will focus on how we can take action to grow our clarity.

3. Knowing Where You Are (Self-awareness)

This one is the most important of the 3. If you know yourself you are better able to reflect and take action in a meaningful way. There are many emotions and states of being that affect our ability to know ourselves. Articles will focus on learning how different states of being and emotions affect our clarity.

The 3 ways that I highlight here will be the focus of my posts on clarity in the coming year. I am excited to bring you monthly posts that dig into the issue of gaining and growing clarity.